Marriage is a beautiful institution. Not only it makes us a complete human being but also adds the dimension of reproduction which is so important for the furtherance of human race. Marriage brings in a rigorous discipline on the part of those who undertake this social custom. It brings responsibility towards the other soul and at the same time makes us more responsible within the key aspects and facets of our life.
For instance, we get less reckless with spending money and curb the zeal for amorous advances. Not each thing in life is as beautiful though and sometimes the thread of marriage breaks. This results in dreaded divorces. Let’s take up a few reasons for divorces:
Infidelity- This is thee top one. If a spouse finds out that the other is cheating on him/her, the thread of trust is often broken. While few are still perseverant with the situation, many others like calling their lawyers. This is a normal reaction and can’t be blamed much. After all, such an action is against the valued integrity of marriage
Incompatibility- Men can be from Mars while women may turn out from Venus. So they might just be bipolar in nature. In case of love marriages, you know it before hand but in all other cases, such disparity in behavior sets in an issue of incompatibility. Temperamental differences and mood swings, complete lack of understanding, non-acceptance of someone else’s presence and general host of differences play a killer
Sexual dysfunction- Though this is harsh, yet this has been cause of differences. Especially in the east, where child bearing is such an important thing and adoptions are rare, a sexually dysfunctional female is considered extremely atrophied socially. This often results in broken marriages; the trend deepens when even the in-laws become hell bent on throwing a woman out.
Behavioral flaws- A woman might lie, fabricate, be untrustworthy. A man might have an amorous behavior, a penchant towards delinquent items, a tendency to be irate and continuously peeved about life in general and spouse in particular. All this fuels the stress between a pair and can lead to divorce
Financial disparity- This one again is a trend prolifically manifest in the East. It’s a shame but dowry is just in. People claim otherwise but reports of divorces on ground of insufficient dowries have been a curse East has so often lived with.
Divorce can be avoided. What is required is to understand the spouse. Not without anything is it said that marriage is based no trust. As soon as the fabric of trust is lost from a marriage, it gets disturbed and often broken. The idea is to consciously feel responsible towards your spouse until it becomes an involuntary action.
Pour love and affection and make your spouse the central figure, the focal point of your life. Any disparity or incompatibility should be beautifully molded to make two different presences roll into one. With few calculated measures and another few heartfelt ones, marriages can always be kept away from falling on the rocks.